I am going to be a little more biased in this topic and base it to the process of a guy approaching a girl he likes:
When going for a job interview there is always thing that have to be done prior to attending the interview eg: prior knowledge about the business and the position you are going to be applying for.
An interview for a job can be heart throbbing they make people go through many phases feeling nervous, some feel excited at the same time, scared(because you just have to do it cause you need a job). All these feelings depend on how the individual feels about the interview and that opportunity.(Can you tell the similarity of this situation and the one of approaching a girl??)
Well during the interview session the interviewers are always looking for characters which will make you a worthy candidate for the job(same thing a woman/girl will do). The qualities are confidence in the candidate, the interviewee has to be able to show that he knows what he is talking about and he is the right man for the job(Overconfidence does not work.. you will just come through as arrogant).The confidence you bring on the table comes from the balance of the knowledge that the interview is an opportunity but it is not the only option or opportunity - In this scenario you start talking to the girl who is your target, the girl wants to know if you are confident and are the right man for her(same as during the interview session).
It is been proven women are experts to figuring out easily if a man they are talking to lacks self confidence by only talking to them a few seconds or just studying their body language. Which is mostly the major deal breaker with the ladies. And as I said about the interview, the mentality you come up with on the table when you are approaching a girl should be the same as for the job interview. Approaching with the mentality that this is an opportunity to meet a girl you fancy but it is not the only opportunity and she is not the last girl in the world(Not the last job in the industry). This would help you with confidence and you will not look needy. Which is not good for you or the girl your talking to.
Having addressed all these issues i truly believe that many aspects of our life are connected to each other. Situations might be different be we react in the same way.
This is all from a heated Discussion with a female companion Mel
PS: Its not plagiarist since i referenced you.
What about situations where there can only be ONE man/woman for someone!! And being biased as you are, a man feels that there can only be THAT woman for him, it is "the only opportunity and she is the last girl in the world?"
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