Well i aint no expert but i have been through a not so nasty break up... but this woman i loved with all i got.....(seriously i loved her at some point it got sad coz i was loving sum1 who did not love me back) Pathetic right??
U dnt have to tell me... Coz i know. But there was nothing i could do about it so i thot.
On that note. Doing nothing about it was the best way to go around it. I have a few steps that i took and i would like to share them. Feel free to add and comment from your own experiences but this worked best for me.
1. Be sure that you have done everything you can to make the relationship work and the other person still isn't showing interest. Because there is nothing worse than living with the regret of giving in too early
2. After that give yourself time, it is very hard this stage(your always going to want to speak with them(try resist the urge as much as you can. This comes with a alot of activities to distract yourself.(or you can just talk to some1else about it to put your mind at ease.
--- It may take a while don't fight it as much coz ur still going to love them for a while instead just admit to yourself you love them and give yourself more time...(meet new people) always fun
3. After admitting and not trying too hard to forget you will find yourself at ease eventhough it will take a while but the pain goes away all that remains is the good memories or and plus maybe occasional missing of some1 but that is okay do not beat yourself up about it. (Trust me I know)
oohh an additional step if u find sum1 u like, do not starve yourself of a chance to have a good time. The next person always speeds up the forgetting/pain-reduction process. yes am talking abt a rebound but u should atleast like the re-bound, wen u actually do it with the wrong intentions, its gonna bite u in the ass.
Thats my three step procedure.. not too perfect but those three things have worked wonders for me.
PS: Do not judge me.... I hope this helps!! :D
Monday, January 10, 2011
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Relationship between Job Interviews and Dating
I am going to be a little more biased in this topic and base it to the process of a guy approaching a girl he likes:
When going for a job interview there is always thing that have to be done prior to attending the interview eg: prior knowledge about the business and the position you are going to be applying for.
An interview for a job can be heart throbbing they make people go through many phases feeling nervous, some feel excited at the same time, scared(because you just have to do it cause you need a job). All these feelings depend on how the individual feels about the interview and that opportunity.(Can you tell the similarity of this situation and the one of approaching a girl??)
Well during the interview session the interviewers are always looking for characters which will make you a worthy candidate for the job(same thing a woman/girl will do). The qualities are confidence in the candidate, the interviewee has to be able to show that he knows what he is talking about and he is the right man for the job(Overconfidence does not work.. you will just come through as arrogant).The confidence you bring on the table comes from the balance of the knowledge that the interview is an opportunity but it is not the only option or opportunity - In this scenario you start talking to the girl who is your target, the girl wants to know if you are confident and are the right man for her(same as during the interview session).
It is been proven women are experts to figuring out easily if a man they are talking to lacks self confidence by only talking to them a few seconds or just studying their body language. Which is mostly the major deal breaker with the ladies. And as I said about the interview, the mentality you come up with on the table when you are approaching a girl should be the same as for the job interview. Approaching with the mentality that this is an opportunity to meet a girl you fancy but it is not the only opportunity and she is not the last girl in the world(Not the last job in the industry). This would help you with confidence and you will not look needy. Which is not good for you or the girl your talking to.
Having addressed all these issues i truly believe that many aspects of our life are connected to each other. Situations might be different be we react in the same way.
This is all from a heated Discussion with a female companion Mel
PS: Its not plagiarist since i referenced you.
When going for a job interview there is always thing that have to be done prior to attending the interview eg: prior knowledge about the business and the position you are going to be applying for.
An interview for a job can be heart throbbing they make people go through many phases feeling nervous, some feel excited at the same time, scared(because you just have to do it cause you need a job). All these feelings depend on how the individual feels about the interview and that opportunity.(Can you tell the similarity of this situation and the one of approaching a girl??)
Well during the interview session the interviewers are always looking for characters which will make you a worthy candidate for the job(same thing a woman/girl will do). The qualities are confidence in the candidate, the interviewee has to be able to show that he knows what he is talking about and he is the right man for the job(Overconfidence does not work.. you will just come through as arrogant).The confidence you bring on the table comes from the balance of the knowledge that the interview is an opportunity but it is not the only option or opportunity - In this scenario you start talking to the girl who is your target, the girl wants to know if you are confident and are the right man for her(same as during the interview session).
It is been proven women are experts to figuring out easily if a man they are talking to lacks self confidence by only talking to them a few seconds or just studying their body language. Which is mostly the major deal breaker with the ladies. And as I said about the interview, the mentality you come up with on the table when you are approaching a girl should be the same as for the job interview. Approaching with the mentality that this is an opportunity to meet a girl you fancy but it is not the only opportunity and she is not the last girl in the world(Not the last job in the industry). This would help you with confidence and you will not look needy. Which is not good for you or the girl your talking to.
Having addressed all these issues i truly believe that many aspects of our life are connected to each other. Situations might be different be we react in the same way.
This is all from a heated Discussion with a female companion Mel
PS: Its not plagiarist since i referenced you.
Saturday, August 28, 2010
The Million Dollar Question: Can guys and girls be "best" friends??
Whoever knows me will tell you, day in day out I always argue this point and my position is always on the NO.If some1 can show me a long term man to woman friendship without turning into love or lust then by all means please write to me.
The conclusion i come up with is due to daily experiences both my own and also other peoples' as-well. Anyone who disagrees with me would probably want to know why I say what I say.Well first of all just to clarify; this does not include the relationship of a gay guy and a girl...... Thats an exception to this rule/observation just like any other rule has exceptions.
Now coming back to my reasons/facts. If a guy and a girl claim that they are best friends then it i either one of the following scenarios:
Fact 1: They both like eachother and do not want to spoil the relationship in which case they will eventually end up hooking up anyway.
Fact 2:either one or the other likes the person they claim to be best friends with but the other person does not seem to show much interest in them so they settle as friend(next best thing) and also in which case might end up in this scenario for the group to hook up(less likely than the first one, but given the correct scenario it is likely).
Well those are a few observed facts that am going to leave you with. but the major cause of all this havoc and mayhem has been caused by sexual tension (as written on the Mx paper of the 27th of August 2010). In this era relationships(many) do not exist without sex.And if there is no sex then relationships do not exist.(Again its not what i believe... this is just another observed fact)...
Food for thought
The conclusion i come up with is due to daily experiences both my own and also other peoples' as-well. Anyone who disagrees with me would probably want to know why I say what I say.Well first of all just to clarify; this does not include the relationship of a gay guy and a girl...... Thats an exception to this rule/observation just like any other rule has exceptions.
Now coming back to my reasons/facts. If a guy and a girl claim that they are best friends then it i either one of the following scenarios:
Fact 1: They both like eachother and do not want to spoil the relationship in which case they will eventually end up hooking up anyway.
Fact 2:either one or the other likes the person they claim to be best friends with but the other person does not seem to show much interest in them so they settle as friend(next best thing) and also in which case might end up in this scenario for the group to hook up(less likely than the first one, but given the correct scenario it is likely).
Well those are a few observed facts that am going to leave you with. but the major cause of all this havoc and mayhem has been caused by sexual tension (as written on the Mx paper of the 27th of August 2010). In this era relationships(many) do not exist without sex.And if there is no sex then relationships do not exist.(Again its not what i believe... this is just another observed fact)...
Food for thought
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